Life Lessons in the Price You Pay When You Stay Too Long

Have you been at your current job too long?

Woah, that is a loaded question, right? And, even more so, an extremely difficult one to answer. 

Let me help you break it down. 

• Is your current position no longer serving you?

• Are you constantly interacting with a boss who you know is regularly gaslighting and belittling you?

• Are you making significantly less in your role than what you know you deserve?

• Do you feel like the work you are doing has little to no impact?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, then it may be costing you in ways you never even knew. 

And, the price you pay when you stay too long just keeps going up. 

Your emotional health, your physical health, your mental health, your wellbeing are all challenged when you stay too long.

I really want to encourage high achieving women to be thoughtful about the psychological price you pay when you stay too long, when you stay stuck, when you don't shift, when you stay committed to a role that's not committed to you, when you stay committed to a role that is not really serving you in the ways that you desire. 

When you continue to make excuses for your employer, for yourself or your family, for your boss, when you continue to make excuses for them about why they're not showing up for you, why they're not serving you, why you're still there. When you continue to make excuses and rationales of why you allow people to pay you very little for you to stay stuck in a role that you know is no longer serving you. 

To stay in a situation or in a job that you know you're not really driving real impact.

I think so often high achieving women don't recognize the costs. They don't see the detriment. They don't see their self-esteem waning. They don't see their credentials being watered down and being washed away. They don't see the psychological toll it is taking on them. The imposter syndrome, the shame, the guilt, the second-guessing. But they don't see all of that.

So, then we make up excuses to stay. 

Well, as soon as this happens, I will start looking for a new position. As soon as the kids are in school, I will leave. I will just stay one more year.

But these excuses don’t yield results, right?

This is one area that is such a part of my heart. It's such a part of my expertise and my reason for being is to really help high achieving professional women make more money and have more impact so that they don't have to pay such a big price for being stuck in a role that's no longer serving them.

I don’t want them to be stuck under leadership that's no longer serving them, or to be stuck in a place that is not aligned with their values or not aligned with their skill set. Or maybe even not aligned with the things that they desire to do in their life and career at this stage.

This is about your well-being, your psychological health, your ability to believe in yourself. If you lose all of that, what do you have left?

If you lose your ability to believe in yourself, if you allow an employer, a supervisor, a coworker to tear you down, is it worth it? No, it isn’t. The psychological price is too high, the salary is too low, and the problems are continuing to rise.

We cannot stay stuck. And if you join my mentorship program, you don’t have to stay stuck. Through my mentorship, I can help you to move from where you are to where you want to be in your career development.

Your mental health and well-being are priceless. And we can start to do some of the repairs of that while we help you find and secure a new role. 

So, don’t wait. Take some time today to schedule a Mentor Moment. And I will make sure that you never pay the price for staying too long anywhere, ever again.